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No need for emotional poverty for children of God

Emotional poverty is a state that a person finds themselves in when they lack the ability to deal with specific circumstances or life in general without a total melt down. Everyone struggles to deal with difficulty, but some cannot emotionally deal with difficult circumstances. They turn to escapes such as drugs and partying, or they may just shut down altogether. When a person finds themselves in a difficult time, but not being able to mourn and still live life, they may very well be dealing with emotional poverty.

Emotional poverty is not the exclusive domain of “the poor.” Anyone can fall victim to its brokenness. God invites us to acknowledge our own weakness, as doing so allows us to both experience God's tremendous grace, and to respond faithfully to the physical and emotional needs of others.

But there is no need for emotional poverty for those of us who are the children of God.

Let’s read psalms 107:1‐3, 17‐22 "O give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever. Let the redeemed of the Lord say so, those he redeemed from trouble -3 and gathered in from the lands, from the east and from the west, from the north and from the south.  Some were sick through their sinful ways, and because of their iniquities endured affliction; they loathed any kind of food, and they drew near to the gates of death. Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress; he sent out his word and healed them, and delivered them from destruction. Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love, for his wonderful works to humankind. And let them offer thanksgiving sacrifices, and tell of his deeds with songs of joy".

What stands out to you about this passage?

When we call out to God we can rest assured that God hears our calls. The promise expressed in Psalm 107 is that God not only hears but acts. When we call out in our times of trouble, God will hear, heal and save us. This can be a hard promise to believe when one is suffering from emotional poverty. Emotional poverty separates a person from God and others. It isolates. It contains.  Emotional poverty is not synonymous with depression but the two can be linked or occur at the same time. Yet Psalm 107 offers a response for such situations: cry out to God. Cry out to God! Let the response to isolation and alienation be to create and deepen relationships with God and one another. Cry out to God for help and help can be found. God's steadfast love will ensure it. This help comes in many forms: church groups, the community of friends and family, counselling services, social programs.

God's love can be evidenced and experienced through individuals, groups, and society at large. Sometimes slowly, but surely, it draws us out of our isolation and suffering. Even though we may suffer from emotional poverty, God is already present and working through those around us. When we recognize and open ourselves up to this love, the sense of isolation can begin to fade. God hears our cries!   When we are better aware of the reality of emotional poverty, we can better recognize and respond to the people in our midst who are suffering from it. When we too hear the cries of those suffering from emotional poverty, we can intentionally act as living examples of God's love. We are called to live in relationship with others. Called to break down the barriers, both from society and within ourselves, that create and perpetuate emotional poverty. The emotional poverty around us can be lessened through our own actions. When we join God’s efforts to care for those around us, nothing is impossible. We can hear, bear witness, and thank God for the steadfast love that has the power to save every person who is suffering from emotional poverty. 

Comforting thought for the day.

For those us who might be walking the path of emotional poverty here are some food for the thought

Reactions to avoid when things get tough

  • Going with your feelings- what you feel tends to be determined by your circumstances
  • Attacking others- this shows a belief that others control your joy- forgive and move on
  • Shutting down- this shows you can’t face reality instead deal with it and grow strong from it
  • Complaining- this solves nothing.
  • Losing perspective- keep the problem in the perspective of the rest of your life.

Overcoming emotional poverty -Just as financial poverty can be overcome with the right help, so too emotional poverty can be overcome. If you find yourself emotionally weak you can come to the point of being emotionally strong and balanced. Here are a few steps to take.

  • Recognize where you are emotionally -Don't be afraid to be transparent. Be honest with yourself. Life can take on new meaning as you come to the place of emotional balance once again, or for the first time.
  • Seek divine intervention –God will not send angels to help you but will give you the ability to face your difficult circumstances and also help you to walk through it and move on.
  • Surround yourself with emotionally strong people - By the way, emotional strength means that you can mourn, yet still go on with life. By surrounding yourself with people who can show their emotions in tough times, yet still deal with life, you will see what true emotional balance looks like.
  • Get rid of the victim mentality - As long as you are a victim, you tend not to take control when hard times come your way. Rather than being a victim, choose to learn from and embrace the difficulty. Don't let it rule you. Don't let it consume you. Those who are emotionally wealthy are able to keep things in perspective. Rather than being consumed by the circumstance, they see it in light of the whole of life.
  • Connect with resources that will help you in your journey towards emotional balance.-There are several resources that aid you in overcoming emotional poverty and achieving perspective, strength and balance in your emotions.