“There’s something in you that the world needs.” “There’s something in you that the world needs.” “There’s something in you that the world needs.” “There’s something in you that the world needs.”

Fall down seven times, stand up eight 

This is a Japanese proverb that is applied in times of crisis or setback, pain or hurts.  This Japanese proverb can be translated as, "life is full of fortune and misfortune," or simply "vicissitudes of life." This is about the rise and fall of human affairs or the ups and downs of life. Prosperity comes and goes, everything is fleeting and temporary but like waves, another swell of prosperity, hope, and peace may come. Anyone can be cooperative, patient, and understanding when things are going well and life is good. But it is the noble man or woman who can behave with grace and compassion and even kindness when times are very, very bad.

In the spiritual life, we will always fall short. We will make mistakes and screw up, that’s inevitable. In the book of Proverbs, we read: a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again; but the wicked are overthrown by calamity. Proverbs 24:16. This is what separates the Saints from everyone else. The difference is that they got back up when they fell. They dusted themselves off and started again back on the path to holiness.

Satan delights in seeing us fail, but that is not his end-game. He doesn’t just want to see us on the ground, he wants us to stay there. It is at that moment of failure that we have to make a crucial decision. Will we stay down? Will this setback, pain or hurt be an end or a beginning? Will this failure be used for our ultimate downfall or will it be used for our sanctification and the greater glory of God?

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. 2 Corinthians 4:8-10

Have you experienced a setback, pain or hurt in your life? We all know how it feels to experience disappointment, defeat and loss. All of us are challenged by situations that leave us frustrated and discouraged. If you are discontented, if you’ve made mistakes, if you’re hurting there is good news - you can have a rise after a fall!

You may have gotten divorced, lost your job, had a health problem, experienced the loss of a loved one or had another setback, pain or hurt. Whatever the case, you can turn your setback, pain or hurt into a rise after a fall. In fact, it is possible to get back to where you once were or even be better. This could be your year – the year you have a great rise after a fall.

God is in the business of fresh starts, new beginnings and resurrected dreams. He has a rise after a fall prepared just for you. You can experience a powerful turnaround in your life. Your present situation is not the final word on your life. No matter what the setback, pain or hurt, you can have a rise after a fall. There have been numerous rises after a falls involving countless people throughout the years. The question is not will there be rises after falls. The question is will one of those rise after a fall be yours? Just as setback, pain or hurts come in all shapes and sizes, so do rises after a falls. But there are certain principles that govern rises after a falls. If you are going to have a rise after a fall, you will need to take some practical steps that personally have taken.

Find Strength Beyond Yourself

Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Nehemiah 8:10 Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.

From much pain I have experienced in life, when things get to their most difficult, there is only one place for me to turn—and that’s to God. Sometimes life is filled with challenges that stretch us so far that we fear we may never snap back. You may find yourself struggling to make sense of your emotions, your thoughts, your very place in this world. Times like these require more than human strength. In the dark moments, I encourage you, bring your pain to God. He knows not only how to comfort you, but to bring you through the pain and into a new and better life. And if you reach out to Him, He will bring you through.

Life has no shortage of difficulties, but the good news is that no matter how difficult things may get, you can bounce back. That’s the beauty of resilience. Resilience is the ability of an object to return to form after it’s been bent, stretched or compressed.

No matter how many setbacks, pain or hurts you’ve faced in your life, it’s never too late to cultivate resilience. You too can grow to become a “rubber-band person,” someone who bounces back from setback, pain or hurts every time.

Bounce back. Abandon Setback, pain or hurt Mentality

Isaiah 43:1 But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. I love this saying “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” It could be what people or circumstances have made you to be or not to be.  You have a choice – bounce back.

Do you know any rubber-band people? Chances are you do. They’re the people who, no matter what happens to them, always seem to bounce back. They may experience an illness, a family tragedy, or a run of bad luck, but it never seems to keep them down. Life can stretch them to their breaking point, but – like a rubber band – they always find a way back to their original shape.

Setback, pain or hurts don’t define you. You’re not a failure because you had a setback, pain or hurt. You can only fail if you stop trying. People who have a setback, pain or hurt mentality think that everyone sees them as a failure. The reality is not everyone thinks that way. Only a few people do, and they don’t matter. Think about what you have achieved and the obstacles you have overcome. A setback, pain or hurt does not cancel out your achievements and accomplishments. A setback, pain or hurt mentality is when you are self-absorbed. You are focused on the setback, pain or hurt and all the problems it has created for you. But you can’t keep playing it over and over in your mind. In order to drop the setback, pain or hurt mentality, you have to remember that this setback, pain or hurt is temporary and it does not define your life. Refuse to think negatively and stay hopeful. A shift from a setback, pain or hurt mentality to a rise after a fall mentality is the fuel for your rise after a fall.

Make the Change 

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2

Sometimes God can call us to make individual changes or promise future change in our life; at other times, the ways of life change our lives after dramatic events take place in our lives. A rise after a fall always begins with change. Unless you change what you are presently doing or not doing, things are going to remain the same and there will be no rise after a fall. Things have to be different. If you want to have a rise after you have fallen you must be willing to make changes. You have to be open to doing things differently from how you’ve done them up to this point.

Don’t let fear, rationalization, discouragement, procrastination or laziness keep you from changing. Change happens when you receive new information or gain new knowledge. Change happens when you get a new attitude. You will see things from a new perspective. You will think differently about yourself, others and God. Change happens when you choose to be committed to your rise after a fall. You must believe in your rise after a fall and stay committed to the process however long it takes.

Recognize the Value of Adding Value

2 Corinthians 1-3-4 “3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. Zig Ziglar, said, “If you’ll help others get what they want, they’ll help you get what you want.” There are times in your life when what you need most is for others to add value to you. When you experience a difficult setback, those you’ve invested in will want to return the favor. Let them. Let the value you’ve given to others return to you and help you through your dark hours. You’ll emerge stronger – and more committed to adding value to others in the future.

Release Your Regrets

"Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Phil 3: 12-13.

So many people carry with them the pain of their past...things they wish they had done differently...things they regret saying...pain they caused others, or things that were inflicted on them. God did not intend for us to carry around such heavy burdens and baggage. It's the enemy of our souls that ties us down with such things in an effort keep us from living our lives in the freedom Christ offers and it hinders us from being all Christ calls us to be. God specializes in do-overs, start-overs and rises after a falls. You cannot stay tethered to the past. You must refuse to allow the past to decide your future. The past cannot be altered, but your future certainly can be changed. God’s message is restoration, that rises after a falls are possible with His help. You simply can’t make a rise after a fall while dragging around the past.

Regret imprisons us in guilt, depression, self-pity and indecision. These feelings cause us to mourn choices we have made in the past. Without releasing your regrets you’ll never be able to make forward progress. This preoccupation with the past keeps you from moving into your rise after a fall. Regret lives in the past where nothing can ever be changed. Refuse to dwell on it, lose the self-pity and release the regret. It may make you cringe every time you think about it, but do yourself a favor and just let it go.

Restore Your Confidence

Psalm 62:5-6 Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on him. God alone is the mighty rock that keeps me safe, and he is the fortress where I feel secure.

Your confidence always takes a big hit when you have a setback, pain or hurt. Setbacks, pain or hurts have a way of affecting your confidence like nothing else. Confidence is the expectation that you will succeed. You have to restore your courage and edge. You have to choose to be confident. Take action with the confidence to step into new beginnings and new opportunities.

Confidence is crucial to a rise after a fall because it is the power that propels you into a rise after a fall. Confidence helps you to take advantage of opportunities – and rise after a fall always come with new opportunities. Confidence helps you to make the decisions you need to make. Your rise after a fall will be in part about opportunities and about confident decisions you make regarding those opportunities.

Resurrect Your Dreams

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.’” –Jeremiah 29:11 “Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” 1 Chronicles 4:10

You can decide to dream again. You are not going to allow your dreams to falter or go away. There will always be some people who will put down your dreams, who will try to discourage you from your rise after a fall. Don’t listen to those people!

No matter what has happened don’t permit your setback, pain or hurt to define you anymore. Become determined to move forward into your dream. What is it that you want more than anything? To make your dream a reality, the discipline must match the desire. It is not about what has happened. It is about what is next for you. Take direct, specific action to make your dream a reality.

Too many people allow their setback, pain or hurt to be a step back. If you’ve had a setback, pain or hurt, don’t take a step back. You can have your rise after a fall. Setbacks, pain or hurts do not control your life. You control your life!

Commit to Growth

Ephesians 4:14-15 “We are not meant to remain as children but to grow up in every way into Christ.” This is a natural outcome of choosing to fail forward. When you start looking for lessons, you set yourself on a path for personal growth. As you learn about yourself in your struggles, you also learn about the people around you. You begin to reflect on what you want from life, and what it would cost to get you there. The best leaders already have a commitment to personal growth, but it’s easy to lose that drive when life disappoints you. You have to commit again to growing each day – and then focus on getting better one day at a time.

Exit Survival Mode

Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness. Your rise after a fall cannot begin when you are in survival mode. You may need to be in survival mode for a time in order to heal, but it can only temporary. There comes a point after you’ve checked out, licked your wounds and got your bearings that you have to exit survival mode. You may think you need to stay in that season longer, but it is fatal for your rise after a fall. Survival mode is a very isolated way of living. It can be comfortable because you can dwell on how you have been wronged, how life is unfair or how things have not gone your way. But survival mode is a fruitless way to live. There is no growth, no progress, no impact. And God did not put you on this earth just to survive. You are meant to thrive and to have your rise after a fall.

Comforting thought for the week

A rise after a fall is possible, but it does take work. Putting into practice these principles will help you overcome your setback, pain or hurt. Everyone from athletes, to celebrities, to entire industries have proven it is possible. With God's help, you have the potential to write your own rise after a fall story.