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Turning your adversities into opportunities

When circumstances or situations work against you, you face adversity. When things seem against you; circumstances or a stoke of bad luck, you are facing adversity. The following are some things you can do to turn your adversities into opportunities

Avoid panic

Panic comes from the dark experiences of the past. It is the memory of things which were oppressive and humiliating.  It is an accumulation of sorrow, of burns.  This is the deep panic – the fear of repeated humiliation. Usually panic has an over layer, a shallow panic – an accumulation of recent ills and minor frustrations. It is this which is most familiar within ourselves. We touch the deep panic only in moments of despair when nothing seems to be going right.  And then we rake over some incidents of our past and wallow in self-pity. All men are vulnerable, all have scars. The great danger is taking panic to be something exceptional; it is not. Nor is this panic important. For there is no inevitability that the evil of the past must dictate the present.

Panic can be coped with trough acceptance.  Forget the ideal image of the self, for therein lies all the pain. Recognize all the rotten, depressing, painful, hurting things you have undergone and some nasty things you think you are – and in this acceptance you will fail to be these things. Recognize that you are not only cracked but you are broken and accept to be molded.  You are free.  Always. Your choices are always open.  The defeat of the past once recognized can have no power over the future.

Relax when pressure arise. Release yourself from binding problems by stepping away, taking time off to do something significant. Only when the mind is calm can it have power, and a powerful mind can never be crippled by any problem.

Self-observation

To be winners we must observe ourselves very carefully, often enough we are not what we seem. We build wall around our weaknesses, contorting our own self-knowledge. We often achieve ends which we did not intend.  A man may set out to win a race, but twists his ankle.  Was this an accident or something planned by his inner demon? We consider the advantage.” I could have won if only……” which means he disclaims the possibility of losing and he wins sympathy as a tragic hero. On the overt level, he ran and lost.  But on the covert level, he sprained his ankle and won. 

There are many failure mechanisms within us.  We do not always do what we profess.  A student who works hard for an examination professes to all how he will come through with flying colours.  But perhaps he may work too hard.  Over exhaustion limits absorption and the mental freshness needed to answer questions well.  In his failure, he wins because, as a tragic hero, he gets all the attention his project were geared towards. 

How may we know ourselves well enough not to delude ourselves? Self-observation is the only answer.  Note what you say and do.

Stop weaving reality

We weave our reality.  We create the web and woof of it. Things may happen to us but it how we reach which governs their meaning.  A loser can warp an opportunity with the same ease that a winner can be goaded on by misfortune.  Everyday consists of the flux of events which are probable.  These events can be used or ignored, be made to build up or tear down or keep on an even keep the pattern of one’s life. Above all there is choice.  Both the good and the bad can be chosen.  The good is what fits into winning.  The bad is what stimulates losing. Energy is usually the prime choice.  Where should you expend energy and where conserve it?  There is no need to fall into the easiest choice.  The mind is a judging instrument, and it should be intellectual judging, not emotional.  You must choose from one event to another what is best for you. 

Life may be a tangled web, but it is often enough a tangle which we are responsible for. We must do that which is best for ourselves and those in our world.  When things are too complex, simplify.  When there is too much to do, organize.  Being amenable to every wind that blows, every impulse which comes over one is far more tiring.  Take things slowly, wisely, carefully, letting yourself be led by conscious decision and your own volition as opposed to filling in obligations. Know wo you are and what you are capable of doing and know what it is that is reasonable to expert.

Positive mental attitude

A positive mental attitude is believing you can, acting as if you can, and charging your thoughts and your energy into a definite, purposive direction. Hope charges hope, momentum increases momentum. And success creates success.  None of these will happen without the initial hope, momentum, and the first success all of which take place in the mind.  The dream in all its rosy hues and ideal outcomes is a prelude to the reality to be created. Hope begins with an act of faith, a belief in a positive outcome unfounded by either positive or negative data. Hope is a principle of good living.  And the energy of hope – enthusiasm – is the means, the pattern, the action and the momentum to good living.  Always remember in life there is no jump from enthusiastic beginning to glorious collusion, only a series of gradations, most of which are negative.   Talent, opportunity, and sheer good luck are thing, more often than not, which are made.  And you can have all these things and still fail.  What determines the difference is the quality of endurance, the faith of positivity against an army of negativity.

Learn to win.

Winning is not something which comes to you, but something which you go after.

Winning is knowing how to believe when there is nothing more to believe in. 

Winning is forging the iron in one’s soul. 

Winning is pleasure.  Mediocrity is downright boring, and losing is bitter.

Winning is a thing of the present.  

One does not win when the goal is reached. No, winning is every act towards the goal, and the goal is only a final act.