How God uses pain to help us.

During my hard times of pain, I have learned and would love to share with you some ways God will use the pain to develop your character:

God uses pain to get our attention.

C.S Lewis wrote, “God whispers to us in our pleasure, but he shouts to us in our pain.” Pain is God’s megaphone. We rarely change when we see the light. We change when we feel the heat.

God uses pain to examine you.

 People can be like canned food without the label; if you want to know what's inside, just open them up! Does God need to open you up? When God allows pain, He wants to see how you will respond, what lessons you will learn and what your thoughts about Him. Is your will and desire ruling over you or is Christ the true Lord of your life? James 1:2-3consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds.”

God uses pain to lead you in the right direction.

Sometimes God needs to slap us in the face to wake us up. Without such wakeup calls we will blindly fall onto the wrong path that leads to greater disappointment and ruin. Just as a parent will discipline their child out of love, God will use will at times allow us to go through pain in order to direct us in a right direction if we surrender ourselves to Him. His love is there to motivate us and change us into the best path and plan, much better than we could ever come up with! Is God trying to get your attention? Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways." Proverbs 20:30 “Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts”.

God uses pain to discipline you.

Sometime the only way to learn the lessons in life and to make us better is only by suffering and failure. It is like as a child being told not to touch a hot stove. And we all have touched that hot stove! Thus we learned by being burned. Pain is a part of life, so it is best we except and learn from it so we do not have to keep getting burned. Most people only learn the value of something, such as health, money, or relationships by losing them. Psalms 119:71-72 “It is good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn your statutes”

God uses pain to shield you from greater harm.

Pain can be a blessing in disguise, because it can prevent us from being harmed by something more severe. Such as a car breaking down just before it reaches the railroad tracks as a train is zooming by. Car breakdowns are stressful and costly, but the train is even more so. Just as the story of Joseph, he suffered needlessly from our perspective, but God protected him and turned it into incredible good. Genesis 50:20 "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good"

God uses pain to refine and improve you.

Painful moments are the main ingredients for us to build our character. The key to these building materials is that they need to be used in the right way to be able to fit and function correctly. God is far more interested in our character than our comfort. In the grand scheme of things, the meaning of life, the reason we live the life we are given is our relationship with God, and then others around us. So the most important thing we have in those relationships is our character, the only two things we will take into eternity, is relationships and character. Romans 5:3-4 "We can rejoice when we run into problems ...they help us learn to be patient and patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."

Our primary goal is to learn from our pains and experiences, so we can grow in our faith and practice for God’s glory. Ask God to ease your grief. This is not denying it or ignoring your crisis, you are going through it for a reason. But as David did, tell God exactly how you feel. Use this to enhance your relationship with Him. (Psalms34: 18; Ps. 62:8)

Refuse to be bitter. You have a choice to become better or bitter. (Job 21:25; Hebrews 12:15) How can I avoid bitterness? Accept what cannot be changed. (Job 11:13, 16) Focus on what you still have, not what you have lost (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Remember what is important in life. And guess what, it is not our things and stuff. It is not the career, cars, boats, toys, education, looks, power, or status. It is relationships, not things that matter. (Luke 12:15 I Timothy 6:7)

Focus on Christ. - This is the secret reservoir of strength we have access to. This gives us the perseverance in tough times. (Philippians 4:13)

How do you do this?

Place your trust and reliance upon Christ; this is where your stability comes from. (Isaiah 26:3 Psalms.112: 6.7; 125:1)

Don’t hoard your comfort-.  2 Corinthians 1:3-4  “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”

Learn to Listen. To our Lord through your prayer and devotions. And to godly advice. This is where our direction comes from. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Look to Christ for salvation! "God is our Redemption, so because of what He did, we can draw our strength from Him and rest in His protection. Remember He always helps in times of trouble, if you do not see it, then you are not looking. (Psalms 46:2)

Be willing to receive help from others. Don't isolate yourself. Christianity is not a solo sport, it is a team effort filled with relationships and opportunities. Find your support in a good and solid church family. If you are in a big church get in a small group, do not be alone or anonymous! Galatians 6:2

Comforting thought for the week

God is at work in your life, even when you cannot see Him. We will go though trials and suffering because of the sin that has infected the world and us. We will grow best for His glory by recognizing and confessing sin. Then we can grow even more when we learn and mature from those experiences. You will have far more contentment and joy in your life when you cooperate and allow God's love to rule in your life, and surrender your fears, desires and pain over to Him.

Our prayer for you today

Our Heavenly Father we love you and we know you love us, the pains you allow in our lives is to discipline us; not to harm us, to examine us and led us in the right direction.  We humbly pray that we will always obey your voice and be in cooperation with your Holy Spirit.  We pray this in the sacred name of your son Jesus Christ. Amen.