Things to do to be at peace with yourself

I desire so much to live a peaceful life, a fulfilling, and meaningful one. With a little bit of effort and a willingness to grow my life has been transformed.   I have a list of things that I have learned that make my life so peaceful that I share with you today. Here is a list of things that you can start doing now, so that your future will be exactly what you’ve dreamed of it to be.

Trust, Trust, Trust

Trusting in God is a lifelong process. Like many aspects o the Christian faith, it’s a choice that we make every day. We have to learn to let go of trying to figure out the “whys” of life and trust that God understands more than we ever could. Here’s what has helped me trust God when my flesh would rather trust myself: making a list of all the things God has carried me through and sharing with you in this web site.

Be Still and Know

In Exodus 14, we see the best Egyptian fighters try to capture the Israelites (this is the scene before the parting of the Red Sea). Instead of trying to control every little detail of their escape plan, in verses 13-14 Moses tells the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm … the LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still”. And you know what God did? He rescued them! He was in control the whole time, even when the enemy was on its way, ready to take the Israelites down. He can do the same for us when we trust and rest in Him.

Let God to be God in your life.

If you’re like me and you crave peace, the remedy for peace is prayer. Go to God and be honest — tell Him how you feel. Say, “God I confess I like being in control and this is not giving me peace. It makes me feel unsafe and unsecure. Being in control makes me feel like I have a purpose. But I know that being a control freak isn’t going to get me anywhere. Help me surrender control to you each and every day. Help me trust in you deeply, so that I will not fear surrendering that control. Help me remember that you hold it all that includes my peace.”

If you’re having trouble surrendering through prayer alone, try taking out a piece of paper and write down the things you are holding so tightly to and this will give you peace. One by one, lay the pieces of paper on the floor and as you’re doing so, imagine yourself literally laying them down at the feet of the Father.


Learn from your life.

You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As soon as you start blaming other people (or the universe itself) you distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you. But for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. An implied value in many cultures is that our work represents us: if you fail a test, then you are a failure. If you make a mistake then you are a mistake. However we have to rearrange our thinking to cut ourselves so slack. Humans make mistakes all the time and it's a normal part of life. It's how we choose to react to them that makes us more successful.

Be of service to others.

Giving back is something you should do regularly. There are several reasons why being a service to others will make you feel more fulfilled in life. It allows you to connect to your community on a deeper level, and helps you to be a better-rounded citizen. It can be good for your mental health by helping you be more grateful and even reduce stress. You can also share your expertise while also improving your skills. You can be of service in many different ways. Be a volunteer in your community, in your church, start a platform to share your life experiences (that God for the technology) – be a blogger to encourage building others, or better still being an innovator.

Let go of things you cannot control.

You may find yourself sitting around getting frustrated that you can’t get a certain situation to work out how you want; that’s normal. But no one wants to feel that way forever. It holds you back from feeling free and living your life to the fullest. The first step in letting go of control is to take a good look at why you’re fearful. We have a desire to hold control because we think it will give us security, however we never will feel secure like the way we think we will. To really feel free we have to recognize that control is an illusion, that things cannot always go the way we want, and even if they do it can be taken away in an instant.

Stay focused on your goals.

The first step to accomplishing all your goals and making your dreams come true starts with this simple realization that you are human: you are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone. Having a rough idea of where you’re realistically heading and a way to measure your success is important. Otherwise, you will feel like you haven’t achieved anything and that can kill your motivation. Aim for a few big goals and then spend the majority of your time executing them. Link your goals to daily habits that are achievable, and you’ll crush them to pieces.

Find your passion.

Ever say to yourself, "If I could just figure out what I'm really passionate about, everything else will take off"? Most people spent days trying to think about what their passion is. However there is a problem with that. Passion can't be found in your head because it lives in your heart. What makes your heart feel good? You need to take action and feel out what makes truly makes you happy. When you get out there and try out things you want to do, you'll start to feel more fulfilled.

Show yourself respect.

Not only must we respect others, but we need to respect ourselves as well. In today’s society, there is a general lack of self-esteem. In general we are way too harsh on ourselves, and are our own worst enemy. A good rule of thumb is that you should never tell yourself something that you wouldn’t say to your best friend. Would you tell your best friend that they aren’t good enough? Of course not! So there is no reason to tell yourself that.

Learn to listen.

There are times when it is better to remain silent than to speak. Very often we feel the need to express our opinion, but there are many situations in life when it is better just to keep quiet. By listening, we learn another person’s point of view and get a better understanding of the situation. For many people, this rule is one of the most difficult to digest.

Comforting thought for the week

God holds the world in His hands — but we’ll never fully grasp the power and extent of those hands if we’re not tuned in to and focused on Him. When we surrender control, wait and trust in God’s plan, we can know that he will be faithful to lead us where He wants us to goJeremiah 29:13 says “You will find Me when you search for Me with all your heart”. Seek God and he will direct your steps.