Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 3)

This week we continue sharing with you the steps to living your life to the fullest. In our previous articles, Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 1) and Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 2), we shared 30 steps to living a full life. In case you missed on the previous articles, we recommend you click the link to read the article; Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 1) and Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 2)

31. Analyse your weaknesses. 

Once you can recognize your weaknesses and understand how they’re holding you back, you can take active steps to work on yourself. when it comes to our own weaknesses, one of the hardest things for us to do is to be objective. naturally we are inclined to rationalize away things we’re not good at, or believing that we’re better than we are.

32. Constantly work on improving yourself. 

In life or in any undertaking, there is always room for improvement. Every day we are learning new ways to do things and we need to build on that. If you are not doing something to improve yourself every day, then you are not going to reach your goals.

33. Master the art of persuasion. 

“You are God’s masterpiece”. You need to follow your goals without undue influence. Learn the art of persuasion, not to manipulate others, but so that you control your destiny.

34. Stop trying to please everyone.

Trying too hard to please everyone makes you insincere to yourself. Not everything you do will please everyone not matter the good intentions. Trying to please everyone is a great way to ensure you never do anything remarkable.

35. Understand that personality traits are not static. 

While we all might have some natural inclinations and gifts based on genetics and the environment we were raised, everything is changeable. If you’re being held back by aspects of your personality, whether its laziness, social awkwardness, mediocre intelligence, know that these are all things that can be improved if you’re willing to work on them, instead of accepting them as immutable personality traits.

36. Simplify. 

The less you need to be happy, the happier you’ll be. Do not complicate your life unnecessarily. Live simply and remain focused on your goals.

37. Surround yourself with the type of people you would want to be. 

If you constantly spend time with negative people, you will become negative as well. If you spend time around people with no ambition, you will find your own dreams slipping away as well. On the other hand, surrounding yourself with awesome people who want the same things you want in life will set you up for success. There is a saying that “you are the average of your 5 closest friends”. While this may not be a scientific fact, it is a useful thought exercise.

38. Design your ideal life. 

It is easy to go through life on auto-pilot if you don’t know what you want. Your first step is to figure out what you want from life.  

39. Make a plan to attain your ideal life and execute. 

Nothing will be handed to you. If you wait around to “find your direction” in life, you will end up finding yourself on track for your exciting career. There is no good reason to wander aimlessly through life once you are out of college.

40. Stop giving up. 

Have you ever heard the story (urban myth?) of the man who was lost in the desert? He was found half a mile from a large oasis city. The point of this story is to illustrate the danger of quitting. Things are always hard until they get better, but you’ll never know how close you came to achieving your goals if you quit before you see them all the way through.

41. Block out haters. 

You will find haters frequently trolling message boards and YouTube comments. Do not take their comments personally and do not be sucked into flame wars. Constructive criticism is one thing, but know that if you are out there trying to accomplish great things, you will attract haters who want to criticize for the sake of criticism.

42. Accept constructive criticism. 

At the same times, haters can be good because sometimes they can be right. Haters show us our weakness. You will likely recognize legitimate criticisms when you feel the sting of cognitive dissonance – you want to dismiss the thought because it comes from someone critical of you, but you cannot help but shake that pit in your stomach. Instead of burying that feeling, accept that you might be in the wrong, and work to improve yourself so you do not make the same mistake in the future.

43. Be the hero of your own movie. 

Does life feel shitty, joyless, and hopeless? Do you feel like you are stuck in a rut with no way out? You already know how to get out – be the hero of your own movie. Pretend you are the hero character in a hollywood blockbuster. There is a point in every movie where the hero is down and out, with seemingly no way out, yet he always finds a way to overcome the odds. Pretend you are that hero, you are in a tough spot, and it is your job now to overcome the odds and come out on top – because it is in the script. Pretend there is a documentary crew following you around, and one day your kids will see what you have been doing. Do you want them to see a hero who overcomes the odds, or a loser who plays the victim? Last time I checked, the hero does not overcome the odds by watching TV 5 hours a day.  Do what needs to be done, no matter how hard it is.

44. Eat, drink, and be merry. 

Cherish those moments of bliss and make them happen as frequently as possible. Incredible food, great company, and engrossing conversation – it does not get much better than that, at least not in this lifetime.

45. Remember that you are going to die one day. 

Your time is limited, so do not waste it living someone else’s life. Do not be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Do not let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Moreover, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.