Steps to living your life to the fullest (Part 1)

Are you still trying to figure out how to live life to the fullest? The sad thing is that most people go through life having never really experienced what life has to offer. You need to understand that everything holding you to a life you do not want to live is a prison created by your own mind. “It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves”– Edmund Hillary.

That does not mean you can just wish yourself into a new life, but it does mean that you can actively work towards living life to the fullest.

Man is always sacrificing his health in order to make money without so much care about his health not realising that later he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.
Then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present thereby not living in the present or the future but end up living as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.

In order to live a full life it is important to embrace the following points or ideas. Some of these ideas may be you have heard them before, some of them you will dismiss. Some of the ideas you will be able to put into practice right away, some of these might plant the seed for ideas you will put into practice for the future. Still others you will spend your lifetime working towards them.

1. Build faith in God. 

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” Hebrews 11: 1. The first key is based on the part of the prayer that says: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.” Choose to respond to God’s greatness by living faithfully in obedience to Him – no matter what it costs you to do so – trusting that it is worthwhile in every situation. When you honour God, He will honor you by blessing you, which will propel your life forward in the right direction.

2. Set goals and write them down. 

Set your goals and put a time line against them by month, year, 5 year, and 10 year periods. Resolve what you want to achieve for each stretch of your life, and make sure you are monitoring to see if you actually made the progress you wanted for the goal set. This list will constantly evolve and you will not reach every one of your goals, but writing your goals down and keeping track of them, will make it more likely to achieve them.

3. Create a bucket list and start checking things off. 

Either list down, in writing or in your mind, the things that you would want to do. Build in your mind that this list is stacked in a bucket. Every time you accomplish an item in your list, tick it off as completed and move to the next item. You will die one day, but before you do, experience as much of this world as you can.

4. It is okay to fail. 

It seems that failure tends to be more public than success or at least that’s what we perceive it to be. We fret it, we try to avoid it, and we question ourselves every time we have unconventional ideas. But the simple truth is – no great success was ever achieved without failure. If you fear to fail then the only way to avoid failure is not trying anything. The only way to succeed is that do not be afraid to fail. Besides, it is only really a failure if you stop trying. There is a Japanese proverb that says, “Fall seven times, stand up eight.” Before Microsoft was born, Bill Gates suffered failure in business. Known today to be one of the wealthiest men in the world, Bill Gates’s upper middle-class family is a stark contrast from some of the other successful failures out there that didn’t have well-off parents. I do not know who else failed many times than Thomas A. Edison who after failing many times made the statement “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” - Thomas A. Edison

 

5. Overcome fear of failure by visualizing the worst-case scenario. 

“You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality in the mind next to honour” -Aristotle

A great way to overcome fear of failure is to confront your worst possible nightmare by doing a “failure mock”. If you try it and fail, what is the worst thing that will happen? Write it down, and then write down what it would take to get back to where you are now. 99.9% of the time, you will find that the worst-case scenario is not nearly as scary as you thought it would be and the only thing holding you back is your own mind-set of fearing to fail.

6. Do not live for others. 

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

-Albert Einstein

Do not choose your path in life based on the expectations set on you by others, whether it is your parents, friends, or society in general. However do not let others choose your path for you, but do not choose a path that will hurt those around you. It is easy to be caught up in your own life, but if you do not take care of those you love, what is it all for in the end?

7. Maintain an internal locus of control. 

There are 2 kinds of people, those who focus on what they can control, and those that focus on what they can’t. Do not blame others for your own failure – there is always someone out there who was dealt a worst hand that made more of it than you did.

8. Ignore the things you cannot or will not change. 

Ever notice how insanely emotional YouTube comments are? People cling to their opinions as if they are a lifeline. Yet these are usually opinions about things that have absolutely no effect on their daily lives. Yes, there are shitty things going on in the world. Unless you are planning to do something about it, ignore it and focus on the things in your life that you can change.

9. Do not live a life of always complaining. 

If you are not happy with something in your life, you can complain about it, or you can actively work to change it. Which one will you choose? Complain genuinely and do something to change what you are complaining about, otherwise brush it off.

10. Do not be jealous. 

Not because it is morally wrong, but because jealousy is a destructive emotion. It is also a symptom that you are not living your life to the fullest – people who are fulfilled can celebrate other people’s success. People who are not fulfilled fill up their emotional void through negative emotions.

11. Do not be a crab in the bucket. 

You’ve heard the expression “crabs in the bucket” – it’s the tendency crabs have for pulling other crabs back down, right when they’re about to climb out. When you break from the norm, you will get pushback from your loved ones. It is not jealousy – they genuinely care for us. But people living the life society tells them to live get scared when they see others going for it. Even if they do it subconsciously and even if it is out of genuine concern – it’s still harmful. It creates a culture of conformity, mediocrity, and quiet desperation. Do not be a crab in the bucket.

12. Do not gossip. 

Sure, it might make you feel better about yourself, for the moment. But it can have negative ramifications, both internally and externally.

13. Change things. 

You can make a difference – once you stop dismissing yourself. Approach challenges with the mind-set of “how am I going to accomplish this?” instead of “what can I possibly do?” But if you’re not actually going to work to change something, then see the point above. Time to put up or shut up.

14. Take care of your body.

Eat healthy when you can, get a good night’s sleep, and exercise. Your only connection with this world is through this fleshy meat vehicle we call our bodies. Take good care of it.

15. Take care of your mind. 

Stop feeding your mind with a constant stream of junk. A little downtime is all right, but do not dedicate every free hour you have to watching realty TV, watching gossip blogs, checking sports scores, and doing other stuff that requires little mental energy. Even the news can rot your brain with its constant barrage of negativity and biased sensationalism.