Wants to be happy; try this!

Make a success list

When we are feeling low in self- esteem, faced by a difficult situation, it is difficult to list anything about ourselves.  When we are caught in a negative spiral of self –dislike, self-pity, feelings of powerlessness, inability to make decisions, inability to act, and self-dislike we are likely to give up trying to be better.  But there is a way to stop this negative journey.  One way to lift ourselves out of this negative cycle is to think about what we have done well in the past.  Maybe things don’t look good now, but what sort of achievements have we already made in our lives?  Make a success list.  This is a list of everything you are successful at, or have been a success at, or have done successfully at some point in your life.  Include all areas of your life, relationship, work, family, leisure and education.  Write down everything that is meaningful to you, even if it might not be to someone else.  Memories of success will change your altitude. Look at the list and see the incredible experiences you have had.  You will then realize that you are not powerless, helpless and indecisive after all- you are a SUCCESS.

Detox your mind

Many of us have unhelpful negative thoughts turning through our minds that limit our happiness and success. These can be along the lines of I’m not good enough, I’m not pretty enough, I don’t have time, I don’t have enough money to do what I want, and so on.  There are plenty of excuses you can find to give yourself reasons not to be happy. But many of the obstacles you put in your own way can be shifted.  You need to change your thinking and banish the negative thoughts that are holding your back from the happiness you want. When you tell a new and better story, you feel different.  When you feel different, the shift in your emotions will improve and you will be happier. One quick way to do a mind detox is to change the story you are telling yourself and other people.  Write down the negative and limiting stories that you are prone to tell yourself and then decide that you are going to drop these stories with immediate effect and tell a new positive and better story.

Have simple friends and clean your environment

There is one wise saying that I love so much “some people come into our lives and quickly go.  Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts.  And we are never the same.” The people we spend time with affect us, so it stands to reason, if we want a more simple life, we should not have a lot of complicated people for close friends.   If you are around people who are very intense and always stressed out, they get you stressed and unhappy; but if you are around people who are peaceful, it helps you remain peaceful too.  When you are around people who are lighthearted and thoroughly enjoy even the very simple things in life, it reminds you to do the same.

Are there people around you who constantly bring you down? If yes, it’s time to clean your environment and get rid of them.  You know those people who can really make you feel bad. They might want to trade gossip, criticize and only talk about things that are going wrong.  Negative friends and family can bring you down faster than anything.  “To feel happier, opt for smiles and laughs from those around you, not gossip and bad stories” Pay attention to the effect other people have on you.  If there are individuals who are gossiping, making you feel bad or generally putting you down, notice this tendency and take some active steps to make some changes.  Either move away from these energy zappers or make a positive decision not to be affected by other people’s emotions and attitudes.  If the people who bring you down are work colleagues, find a way to politely stay away from the negative conversations as much as possible and not get involved.  Notice how other people make you feel and head toward the ones who make you feel good.

It all about you

Change your inner voice – make it kinder, softer and more positive.  This will change your world and instantly improve your happiness. Second -Change your thoughts and Make different choices. Distance yourself from your negative thoughts and question them further than just believe they are true.  As it is not always easy to pinpoint negative thoughts until it is too late, learn to watch your feelings as a way into your mind, and don’t blindly follow your feelings. After catching your thoughts, now you can think about how you would like to feel and act, instead.  You can draw new opportunities into your life, whether that is in a relationship, your career or choosing a healthier lifestyle.  When you change the way you think and behave, you will see different opportunities and go for them.

Demonstrate gratitude and appreciation

Happiness research shows that the happiest people are those who demonstrate a high level of gratitude and appreciation for what they already have.  Those who live a poorer communities often score higher on the happiness research index than those who are more affluent.  To develop deeper levels of happiness, it’s important to begin by boosting your appreciation of what you do have – this might be friends, health, family, community, resources, nature itself, food, work – it doesn’t matter what it is.  When you feel true gratitude in life and deep appreciation, your real feelings of happiness soar.

Focus on pleasing God, not people

God is the only one who holds our future.  He is the only one who can write about us, who can put a full stop on our lives.  His opinion is only what matters most!  Other people’s opinion does not have to influence our happiness. Make a decision that it does not matter what others are saying about your happiness as long as; what you are doing is from a clear conscience and good will. It does not matter what other people are saying about your intentions, plans or actions as long as you feel strongly that everything you are doing has higher purpose and prompted by a higher being.  Apostle Paul must have been confronted by the same problem of pleasing people that why he wrote in Galatians: 1-10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ”.

 

Tackle each day as it comes

Live neither in the past nor in the future, but let each day’s work absorb your entire energies, and satisfy your widest ambition (Sir William Osler, Canadian physician). Therefore I always exercise and discipline myself to have a clear conscience, void of offense toward God and toward men. (Acts 24:16) Daily discipline keeps us in a place to handle life peaceably.  Hebrews 12:11 states no discipline seems pleasant at the time but after on it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness.  In other words, it may be a challenge and require discipline to do what is right now, but the knowledge we have done what we are supposed to do is that it gives us peace.  Discipline means we must frequently say no to the fleshly desire.  The apostle Paul said” “I die daily” he did not mean he really experienced physical death, but he did say no to himself regularly if what he desired did not agree with what the Holy Spirit was leading him to do.  If your discipline muscles are weak from lack of use, begin getting them in shape today.  They may hurt and feel sore at first, but soon you will be enjoying a peaceful, simple life (Joyce Meyer).

Banish dissatisfaction

If you are unhappy with something in your life, discard it and then start to refer of it in the past tense –for example say, “I was discouraged by the way the events turned out”. When faced with inevitable circumstances just say, “when I faced this and that adversities I overcame” putting it into the past gives you the power to change it and this will allow things/circumstances to become brighter even though they do not seem to be.

See yourself differently

Most people define themselves by what they do for a living, what people said or did not say they will become, what circumstances made them to feel or not to feel – but that can be limiting.  Instead think about who you would really like to be – and it does not have to be how people define or  don’t define you, or neither does it have to be work related or circumstance related! Why don’t you think of yourself as an encourager, a motivator, a creator, an innovator than what people call or think or of you or your work title? This way will help you to imagine new possibilities for your life.

Lastly change your attitude to enjoy God’s favour

We often grumble or avenge the wrong done to us. This is the cause of most of our unhappiness.  We should rather trust God to change the situation around for us.  God says avenge and divine retribution comes from Him alone! We have to change our attitude if we are to enjoy God’s blessings because God is not going to pour fresh, creative ideas and blessings into our old attitudes! Our God who is a God of renewal, of new beginnings, of freshness and revelations will not put new flesh on dry bones unless the bones first “come to life” (Ezekiel 37:6) “I will give you sinews and muscles, and cover you with skin. I will put breath into you and bring you back to life. Then you will know that I am the Lord.”

Comforting thought for the week

Miracles of being happy in different circumstances of life, are love in action and if you don’t believe in them they will never happen to you.  We can attract miracles of happiness despite what is surrounding us; what people have labeled us; only if we truly believe miracles of happiness are possible.  Forget about allowing yourself to believe in case you are disappointed.  Fear of disappointment will stand in your way forever! Expect a miracle of being happy and joyful.  Wholeheartedly believe one will happen and keep trusting.  The miracle of happiness and joy might not be brought by what you were expecting but something amazing will happen.  Believe is the most powerful magic of all.