It’s written in Colossians 3:23 that, "whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men." And in Ephesians 6:7 we're told, that as bond servants of Christ Jesus we are to be "rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man..."

As Christ followers, and as husbands and wives, we're to put forth our best attitude and best effort. There doesn't appear to be an "if" clause within scripture that says IF "he (or she) would just..." or IF "she (or he) wouldn't..." then we would act differently. We’re called to do everything "as unto the Lord" with His guidance. Not only will this please the Lord on this side of heaven, but also when we "graduate" to Heaven some day, we will hear the words being told to us, "well done, good and faithful servant" and receive our heavenly reward.

This morning I came across the scripture in Ephesians 5:29-30, which is told to husbands, but also applies to wives. We are told that, “no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of His body.” I thought of how our ATTITUDE is to be one that “nourishes” and how we are to put forth our best EFFORT to show that we “cherish” our spouse by the things we do & say. If we continually remind ourselves of that, our marriages will truly reveal and reflect the heart of Christ. Sometimes our love must be tough & sometimes it’s to be soft, but it is always to reflect how God wants us to treat each other.

We are to do what it takes to reflect the attitude of Christ, who told us He will “never leave” or “forsake” us. Read Philippians 2, so you can better see what God expects concerning our attitude –it is to be sacrificial. Please know that we can’t control all of the circumstances within our marriage. Some “partners” will not give with the same effort (and sometimes with no effort), but that isn’t our responsibility. We’re told in Romans 12:18, "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all" … as “far as it depends on you.”


May God help us to put forth the best attitude & effort possible within our marriages to His glory!