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Nurturing the best of you

Nurturing a problem not only means you keep it, it also implies that you are feeding it. It is drawing strength from you, just as a child has no way of getting food in the mother’s womb, expect from her. For those who are in any difficult situation watch for what you nurture. There are a couple of things that I have learnt from experience since the departure of our son that can help you nurture the better of you.

Let the past be past

Many times when we are faced with a difficult situation especially when we lose a loved one we tend to hold onto negative experience for so long that the turn into a myriad of sickness and disease.  As long as you keep nurturing your past, you remain there.   You must neuter old pain and scars.  Make a decision about your today and tomorrow – how you want to spend the rest of your life.  Let your ugly past be an opportunity to help others who have gone through what you have gone through or worse.  Put your good past before you as a memorial that it can only get better.  Step out into new things.  Dr. Myles Munroe writes “it is always better to fail at something than not to excel at nothing at all.  Get up and try again.  The journey to recovering you potential is the ability to move beyond your past and to use it to inform and improve your future” the choice to move forward or not depends on you. Watch out what you nurture.

Grow to know who you are

Who are you? Why are you here? What is the purpose in life? Where are you going?  If you don’t know where you are going, any road will lead you there.  Why are you alive? What are you living for? What do you want to be remembered for? Unless you squarely confront these questions, you are likely to end up at mediocre.  Edwin and Nancy Cole wrote “we aren’t so likely to be manipulated and entangled in a mess if we know who we are and can genuinely believe in ourselves”

Watch your words

Proverbs 18:22; “death and life are in the power of the tongue” your words programs you, either for success or failure.  Scientists have proven that what a patient says about himself/herself is what determines whether the patient will recover or cross eternity’s threshold.  It does not matter how much good or bad people say about you.  What really counts is what you say about yourself.  You can be your very worst enemy or your best encourager.  You are the prophet of your destiny.  What do you think about yourself? What do you say about yourself? Nurture what you think and say about yourself.  When you speak right words, the mind relays positive messages which take effect in your whole being.  But if you keep telling yourself things like I’m depressed, I’m stressed, I will never recover from this, your brain releases negative impulses to the rest of the body to act just like what you have spoken.

Surround yourself with people who nurture you

People make the mistake of socializing with those who constantly inhibit their values.  When we don’t value ourselves, we tend to attract people who support that devalued image.  It is always said, “show me your friends and I will show you your future”. You and I increase or decrease by association.

Always mentor or be mentored

If you feel confused, get a mentor and if you are living through your situation positively and victoriously, then be a mentor. Yes, if you're confused, even be a mentor. There's no better way to learn something than to teach it. There is something about teaching that forces you to continually learn because everybody's looking to you for the answers, and so you want to be prepared. I am such a believer in mentorship. In fact, that is what the method of discipleship is. Mentoring is a modern word for disciples and masters. There is no one too old to have a mentor and there's no one too young to be a mentor. If you feel confused in life, consider either being a mentor or getting a mentor.

Finish well

So as we run the race, it's difficult, we go through challenges, we experience doubt, we feel weathered, we have all of these challenges, but welcome to living life. It's a part of what we do! That's how life is, and you'll get through it. You and God will get through it together. Don't feel that you have to pretend, don't feel that you have to push things down, and don't feel that you have to hide things from God. You can be honest with him in your prayers, you can pray like David did, you can tell him that you feel alone, you feel afraid, you wonder where he's been. Then, watch as God sweeps over you with his Holy Spirit to bring you new life and power for a new day.

Finally, and this is my last thought, finish well. Persevere. Be patient in the midst of your trials and your doubt. Life is a marathon. Don’t burn out. Finish well.